Sunday, 17 June 2012
My mind
Its 4:22am and I haven't slept yet. I'm sitting in my bed, listening to The Offspring, drinking tea and eating biscuits. It's getting light outside. I can hear birds singing. But I don't want to sleep and I have no idea why. Maybe it's because I kind of hope that I don't wake up. I don't want 'tomorrow' to come. I didn't even want to come to bed, but thought I'd best had, seeing as it was like, 3 o'clock in the morning. I don't know. I just ... I think, I feel like I'm losing things. I'm losing it and I don't know what to do. I don't know where to go for help. But I do know I can't do this on my own. And I don't know what to do.
Today is Fathers day. And I've never needed my dad more than I do right now, but he's not here and he never will be. I want someone to hold me, and just tell me that everything's going to be ok. And to help me.
I'm just so lost.
So very lost.
Tuesday, 29 May 2012
Am I ready ... ?
Well hello. Its been a while huh? So things have changed since January. There have been many ups and downs, but for the most part, I am achieving what it was that I planned. (Not as quickly as I would have liked but I could've tried harder.)
Things have been difficult. I've been struggling for a couple months, but I am on the up and out of it now. Over the last few weeks, things have been improving and I have been getting back on track. I'm back at the gym, I'm eating better and generally taking back the control that I let go of.
The only thing that is bothering me, and I hate that it is, is my massive lack of love life! Don't get me wrong, there is no part of me that *needs* a bloke (ok, maybe a small part but we won't go there, literally or figuratively!), but it would be nice occasionally have someone that's slightly more interested in more than just a few one-nighters.
This isn't a new thing, its something that's been going on for as long as I can remember. Admittedly my persona and attitude probably gives the impression that that is all I am interested in, but it would be nice to occasionally have the option ya know?
I'm pretty much the only single one out of all of my friends. Not that they ever leave me out or anything, but its hard when you're the gooseberry, even if it is only in my head.
The closest I've ever been to a long-term relationship was 7 years. You would consider that a long-term thing, if it wasn't for about the last 5 years of that, I was more of a carer to an alcoholic than a gf to someone that loved me. He proposed after about 6 months, I accepted because he was ok then. I didn't get a ring until about 6 years later, when he was already sleeping with the woman that he ended up leaving me for. And I didn't even wear it on my finger, I had it on a necklace. So that was nice.
I just always seem to be the girl that guys want to sleep with (which is flattering of course) but they never want anything more. Like I said, maybe its me, maybe my walls are too thick.
It all just makes me feel that I am never going to find someone. That I'm going to end up on my own. That no-one is going to persevere enough with me to get through. I don;t know, I'm rambling now, as usual.
Maybe I'm ready for an actual real life relationship? The very thought of that scares me though. I've never been completely open with anybody ever. I actually don't know if I'm capable! But considering the alternative, maybe I should give it a try. 'Singledom' isn't always all its cracked up to be.
Its just that its a very lonely life when its all you've known.
Things have been difficult. I've been struggling for a couple months, but I am on the up and out of it now. Over the last few weeks, things have been improving and I have been getting back on track. I'm back at the gym, I'm eating better and generally taking back the control that I let go of.
The only thing that is bothering me, and I hate that it is, is my massive lack of love life! Don't get me wrong, there is no part of me that *needs* a bloke (ok, maybe a small part but we won't go there, literally or figuratively!), but it would be nice occasionally have someone that's slightly more interested in more than just a few one-nighters.
This isn't a new thing, its something that's been going on for as long as I can remember. Admittedly my persona and attitude probably gives the impression that that is all I am interested in, but it would be nice to occasionally have the option ya know?
I'm pretty much the only single one out of all of my friends. Not that they ever leave me out or anything, but its hard when you're the gooseberry, even if it is only in my head.
The closest I've ever been to a long-term relationship was 7 years. You would consider that a long-term thing, if it wasn't for about the last 5 years of that, I was more of a carer to an alcoholic than a gf to someone that loved me. He proposed after about 6 months, I accepted because he was ok then. I didn't get a ring until about 6 years later, when he was already sleeping with the woman that he ended up leaving me for. And I didn't even wear it on my finger, I had it on a necklace. So that was nice.
I just always seem to be the girl that guys want to sleep with (which is flattering of course) but they never want anything more. Like I said, maybe its me, maybe my walls are too thick.
It all just makes me feel that I am never going to find someone. That I'm going to end up on my own. That no-one is going to persevere enough with me to get through. I don;t know, I'm rambling now, as usual.
Maybe I'm ready for an actual real life relationship? The very thought of that scares me though. I've never been completely open with anybody ever. I actually don't know if I'm capable! But considering the alternative, maybe I should give it a try. 'Singledom' isn't always all its cracked up to be.
Its just that its a very lonely life when its all you've known.
Thursday, 5 January 2012
New Year, New Start?
I say a resounding 'YESSS'. I know, everyone says this every year, and every year nothing changes. "I'll lose weight.", "I'll save more money.", "I'll change my attitude towards x and y." and everything stays the same. I have been guilty of this on way more than one occasion believe me. I've had more resolutions than I care to remember.
Not this year though. This year, 5 days in, and I'm already different. Its not something that I feel I have physically worked at. I haven;t given anything up, or the opposite, taken anything up. I haven't consciously changed my lifestyle. But I feel different. I feel better. I feel happy. Yes, that says happy.
It actually started on New Years eve. I went to town with one of my best mates who was staying with me, and I was ready early. And then, in the evening, I was ready early again. Now I know how tiny and insignificant this must sound, but previously, I seemed to be incapable of being anywhere anything other than late. So being early twice in one day is a massive achievement for me!
I also had one of the best New Years that I've had in a very long time. Just went to my local pub, but it was really quiet (surprisingly). This is a good thing as it meant that we didn't have to wait half an hour at the bar to get a drink! I was surrounded by some of my very favourite people in the whole world, although a few were missed terribly too, and I even knew the bar staff so even going to the bar was fun. (Sadly didn't get any midnight kisses but I plan on making up for that this year!)
New Years day was the most eye-opening for me. I woke up, expecting to be hungover to death, considering the amount of beer and sambuca that I had consumed, but I was in the best mood that I have been in for a long-ass time. I'm talking years. I was Tigger. I was excited and bouncy and chatty and really annoying! But it was so awesome. For the first time in ages, in fact, for the first time in as long as I can remember, I was truly happy. I don;t have the easiest life, but I am so lucky. I'm healthy, I have the best friends and family, I have a roof over my head and I am making a start to change my life for the better. On the flipside, I'm skint, I owe bills, my washing machine is broken and my flat looks like Hamleys fought Christmas then threw up but these things are all trivial. These things are all things that I can fix easily. The important things are there.
I've been in a variation of this bouncy mood for the last 5 days. And if you have read any of this blog aside from this post, then you will know how huge this is for me! I was the epitome of a miserable cow, and I'm sure that I will still have my moments, but I've decided that I am not going to be miserable unless I have a damn good reason for it. For one thing, its no fun! And for another, being miserable doesn't change anything. It won't pay bills or fix my washing machine, only actions will do that. I may as well just get on with it and be happy.This has all stemmed from a line from a TV show that I watch (Chase. FYI, they need to uncan this, I loved it!), which was:
I feel stronger already. More confident. More 'me'. And it just gives me more strength. Don't get me wrong, being brave is scary as hell, but its worth it. Its definitely worth it.
HAPPY NEW YEAR BITCHES!!
Not this year though. This year, 5 days in, and I'm already different. Its not something that I feel I have physically worked at. I haven;t given anything up, or the opposite, taken anything up. I haven't consciously changed my lifestyle. But I feel different. I feel better. I feel happy. Yes, that says happy.
It actually started on New Years eve. I went to town with one of my best mates who was staying with me, and I was ready early. And then, in the evening, I was ready early again. Now I know how tiny and insignificant this must sound, but previously, I seemed to be incapable of being anywhere anything other than late. So being early twice in one day is a massive achievement for me!
I also had one of the best New Years that I've had in a very long time. Just went to my local pub, but it was really quiet (surprisingly). This is a good thing as it meant that we didn't have to wait half an hour at the bar to get a drink! I was surrounded by some of my very favourite people in the whole world, although a few were missed terribly too, and I even knew the bar staff so even going to the bar was fun. (Sadly didn't get any midnight kisses but I plan on making up for that this year!)
New Years day was the most eye-opening for me. I woke up, expecting to be hungover to death, considering the amount of beer and sambuca that I had consumed, but I was in the best mood that I have been in for a long-ass time. I'm talking years. I was Tigger. I was excited and bouncy and chatty and really annoying! But it was so awesome. For the first time in ages, in fact, for the first time in as long as I can remember, I was truly happy. I don;t have the easiest life, but I am so lucky. I'm healthy, I have the best friends and family, I have a roof over my head and I am making a start to change my life for the better. On the flipside, I'm skint, I owe bills, my washing machine is broken and my flat looks like Hamleys fought Christmas then threw up but these things are all trivial. These things are all things that I can fix easily. The important things are there.
I've been in a variation of this bouncy mood for the last 5 days. And if you have read any of this blog aside from this post, then you will know how huge this is for me! I was the epitome of a miserable cow, and I'm sure that I will still have my moments, but I've decided that I am not going to be miserable unless I have a damn good reason for it. For one thing, its no fun! And for another, being miserable doesn't change anything. It won't pay bills or fix my washing machine, only actions will do that. I may as well just get on with it and be happy.This has all stemmed from a line from a TV show that I watch (Chase. FYI, they need to uncan this, I loved it!), which was:
"Don't let fear hold you back from something you want. Just close your eyes and make the leap."This 'spoke' to me. I rewound the epi and listened to this about 10 times. Its true. I have missed out on so much because I was too scared. And its ridiculous. That is not going to be me anymore. I mean, whats the worst that can happen? Someone may say no, or someone may laugh. But so what? As long as I know that I have done all that I can to get what I want then I'll get over it.
I feel stronger already. More confident. More 'me'. And it just gives me more strength. Don't get me wrong, being brave is scary as hell, but its worth it. Its definitely worth it.
HAPPY NEW YEAR BITCHES!!
Thursday, 17 November 2011
I want ...
And now I want so much.
I hate feeling like this. I'm strong. I'm independent. I'm good with my own company. I like being alone.
But not any more. Well, not all the time anyways. Not any more.
I want someone. I want some to want me. I want someone to be there on these cold nights, to watch TV with, to play games with, to go to bed early with. Not every night. Just occasionally.
I want someone to wake up with. I want someone to bring me coffee in the morning. To snuggle up with for a while, then have the dishes done when I do get up!
I don't want to be the odd one out on nights out. The only one that doesn't have a bf.
I know I'm hard work, I know I can be an incredibly rubbish girlfriend (by normal standards). But that's the way I am. I'm moody. I'm stroppy. I change my mind, a lot. I'm not easy to deal with and I rarely make things simple. I don't trust, not 100%. I don't get jealous, but I do get suspicious.
But, despite all that, I can also be a very awesome girlfriend an all. I'm loyal, generous, helpful. I can be affectionate. And I'm a damn good cook (as long as you don't bother me in the kitchen!).
I don't really know what it is I'm trying to say to be honest.
I guess I'm lonely. Well, I know I'm lonely.
Jeez, you know I'm lonely.
It makes my head confused. I've been thinking lately, those women that settle, I can understand why they do it. I could never see why before but I think I get it now. I still very much doubt that I could do that. I would make life hell for them and for myself because of the boredom factor.
I need someone that's going to keep me on my toes. Someone with a mind of their own. An opinion of their own. Someone that will argue with me if they feel passionate about something. I don't want a 'yes-man', it would wind me up no end.
This doesn't mean that I want to be messed around. I hate it when people lie to me. An old relationship of mine ended, not because the person cheated, but because they lied to me about it even though I knew 100%. If they had been honest, maybe things could have been salvaged.
But I digress, actually I don't. Considering I'm not even sure what my point was.
Ugh, I don't even know. I guess I just want a nice, (hot) guy that's going look after me a little bit but not crowd me. Someone that has their own life as well as the one that they want to share with me. Someone that is going to be honest and not tell me what they think I want to hear - they're usually wrong anyways. Someone that I can love, and trust 100% and that loves me back just as much.
I think this may actually be too much to ask.
I hate feeling like this. I'm strong. I'm independent. I'm good with my own company. I like being alone.
But not any more. Well, not all the time anyways. Not any more.
I want someone. I want some to want me. I want someone to be there on these cold nights, to watch TV with, to play games with, to go to bed early with. Not every night. Just occasionally.
I want someone to wake up with. I want someone to bring me coffee in the morning. To snuggle up with for a while, then have the dishes done when I do get up!
I don't want to be the odd one out on nights out. The only one that doesn't have a bf.
I know I'm hard work, I know I can be an incredibly rubbish girlfriend (by normal standards). But that's the way I am. I'm moody. I'm stroppy. I change my mind, a lot. I'm not easy to deal with and I rarely make things simple. I don't trust, not 100%. I don't get jealous, but I do get suspicious.
But, despite all that, I can also be a very awesome girlfriend an all. I'm loyal, generous, helpful. I can be affectionate. And I'm a damn good cook (as long as you don't bother me in the kitchen!).
I don't really know what it is I'm trying to say to be honest.
I guess I'm lonely. Well, I know I'm lonely.
Jeez, you know I'm lonely.
It makes my head confused. I've been thinking lately, those women that settle, I can understand why they do it. I could never see why before but I think I get it now. I still very much doubt that I could do that. I would make life hell for them and for myself because of the boredom factor.
I need someone that's going to keep me on my toes. Someone with a mind of their own. An opinion of their own. Someone that will argue with me if they feel passionate about something. I don't want a 'yes-man', it would wind me up no end.
This doesn't mean that I want to be messed around. I hate it when people lie to me. An old relationship of mine ended, not because the person cheated, but because they lied to me about it even though I knew 100%. If they had been honest, maybe things could have been salvaged.
But I digress, actually I don't. Considering I'm not even sure what my point was.
Ugh, I don't even know. I guess I just want a nice, (hot) guy that's going look after me a little bit but not crowd me. Someone that has their own life as well as the one that they want to share with me. Someone that is going to be honest and not tell me what they think I want to hear - they're usually wrong anyways. Someone that I can love, and trust 100% and that loves me back just as much.
I think this may actually be too much to ask.
Friday, 21 October 2011
Right now
Right now I feel empty but full of emotion. I feel strong but ever so weak. I feel stupid but I know that I'm not. I don't know why I let this happen. I don't know why I cant be stronger.
I don't know why he wont leave me alone. Well, I do. I always cave. I always give him what he asks for but I don't know how to stop that.
I'm so ashamed of myself. I hate myself for letting him win every damn time.
Hes full of promises that I don't believe. Hes full of apologies that mean nothing. He throws words around like he knows what they mean, yet he has no idea.
I don't know if he has any clue about how he makes me feel. If he has an idea, I know for a fact that he doesn't care. He says he does. What he means is, he will use the words until he gets exactly what he wants, then he will continue to treat everyone around him like dirt.
Right now, I want to break down. I want to sit in a corner and wail and sob. I want to punch the wall and I want to take it out on myself.
Because I'm the only one that can stop this happening.
I want to get completely shitfaced and dance my cares away, pretend nothing is real and my life is perfect.
I want to run away.
I cant do any of these things. I don't have the time for a breakdown. I have a family to look after. I have friends to be there for. I don't get the luxury of being able to collapse and give up.
I honestly don't know where to turn. I don't know how to stop this cycle. I know its been going on for far too long and as the old cliche goes, I want to get off.
But I cant find the stop button.
I don't think there is one for me.
I don't know why he wont leave me alone. Well, I do. I always cave. I always give him what he asks for but I don't know how to stop that.
I'm so ashamed of myself. I hate myself for letting him win every damn time.
Hes full of promises that I don't believe. Hes full of apologies that mean nothing. He throws words around like he knows what they mean, yet he has no idea.
I don't know if he has any clue about how he makes me feel. If he has an idea, I know for a fact that he doesn't care. He says he does. What he means is, he will use the words until he gets exactly what he wants, then he will continue to treat everyone around him like dirt.
Right now, I want to break down. I want to sit in a corner and wail and sob. I want to punch the wall and I want to take it out on myself.
Because I'm the only one that can stop this happening.
I want to get completely shitfaced and dance my cares away, pretend nothing is real and my life is perfect.
I want to run away.
I cant do any of these things. I don't have the time for a breakdown. I have a family to look after. I have friends to be there for. I don't get the luxury of being able to collapse and give up.
I honestly don't know where to turn. I don't know how to stop this cycle. I know its been going on for far too long and as the old cliche goes, I want to get off.
But I cant find the stop button.
I don't think there is one for me.
Saturday, 8 October 2011
Dictation
So last night I was chatting away to myself, as I do (its not as weird as it sounds .. ), and I decided that my chats would make good blog posts. So decided to dictate to myself, using the voice recorder on the phone. Here it is!
Ive just watched Educating Essex, and at the moment I'm trying to figure out what it is that I want to do with my life, because I have absolutely no idea. I mean, Id love to something to do with photography but I know that if that even happens, that it would take a while. I'm not going to be able to just buy a camera and suddenly jump into being a successful photographer so I'm going to have to look at something more realistic. Obviously if I do end up in that sort of thing then brilliant, but very unlikely to happen. I think my best bet with that would be to join a camera club. Ive found one that meets nearby in our local library so will look into that. They meet of an evening though, 8-10pm so would obviously need a regular sitter so we'll see.
Like I said, I have just watched Educating Essex, and the thought of being a teaching assistant has just flashed through my mind. This is very scary, as I don't like children. Really kinda hate kids. I just genuinely don't know what I want to do.
Ive been thinking of doing a degree, possibly thinking of doing an open degree with the Open University but it kinda depends on how long its would take me. I mean, if its going to take like, 6 years then there's no point, its too long. I have more time now, with the kids being in school/nursery, but once Molly turns 5 in 18 months, I am required by law to get, or at least look for, a job. I don't know if I would be still allowed to study. Its all pretty confusing. Don't get me wrong, I will want to work, but I want to be able to get a better job than an 'entry level' one, or at least have some quals. and skills behind me to have the option to.
I feel that what I'm doing now, is what I 'should' have been doing at 18. But because I didn't go to 6th form, because I left after my GCSEs and went to work in the stables, and did qualifications towards teaching, that I haven't decided what it is I want to do. Thing is, the stables/teaching really isn't an option right now. Because I didn't get the full teaching qualifications, I would have to go back and train, and that's just not possible. It wouldn't be easy to work out around the kids. And they would end up missing out on a lot of stuff, and I would end up missing out on them and if that was ever going to be an option, Id have gone back to the stables a long time ago. But I want to see them grow up and help them do that as much as I can, and for as long as I can. Otherwise things would be different and they're not. They are the way they are.
I need to try and work it out. The counselling is still an option. I'm not sure how it all works though, I need to sit down for an hour or two and work it out. Id love to study, Id love to have the vocation, Id love to have somewhere to go in my life. I don't just want to work in a supermarket, not that there is anything wrong with that job of course, but I don't just want a 'job'. I want to do something that I enjoy, that I love doing, that I can put all my effort into. Maybe that just wont happen, maybe I will be sat behind a till for the rest of my life and if that's the case then Ill have to find other ways to find fulfillment in my life.
If I actually do want to travel when the kids have grown up, like I have said I am going to do for years, then I'm going to have to make enough money to put some aside to save for that purpose. I want the kids to have everything they want. And if Ive just got some crappy job then its highly unlikely that Ill be able to do that for them, and that's not fair, its not their fault.
So this is where I am right now I'm trying to work out what it is I'm good at, what I enjoy and what I want to do. I keep coming back to the OU, I think that might just be my best bet. But I think I need to speak to someone about it, because I just don't have a bloody clue.
I just don't know, I really don't know. I don't know what I like. I don't know what I enjoy doing, I cant remember! I love biology but where would I go with that?
At the OU, they offer a degree in counselling, but I need to sit down, probably for a couple hours, and figure out what I'm going to do and then make a start, because sitting here talking about is just well, its not getting me anywhere. I should never have taken that counselling course that I completely bailed on. I got nothing out of it, I wasn't ready for it. It shouldn't have been done, but it was and I have to sort it.
I need to sit down, concentrate and I need to read up. Then I need to get the ball rolling.
So yeah, my plan for now is to read, and figure out how I can do this counselling. I think that's what I want to do. I'm fairly sure that's what I want.
So wish me luck kids. Because I am amazing at procrastinating, as you all know. Today is a new day blah blah. You know how it goes.
Ive just watched Educating Essex, and at the moment I'm trying to figure out what it is that I want to do with my life, because I have absolutely no idea. I mean, Id love to something to do with photography but I know that if that even happens, that it would take a while. I'm not going to be able to just buy a camera and suddenly jump into being a successful photographer so I'm going to have to look at something more realistic. Obviously if I do end up in that sort of thing then brilliant, but very unlikely to happen. I think my best bet with that would be to join a camera club. Ive found one that meets nearby in our local library so will look into that. They meet of an evening though, 8-10pm so would obviously need a regular sitter so we'll see.
Like I said, I have just watched Educating Essex, and the thought of being a teaching assistant has just flashed through my mind. This is very scary, as I don't like children. Really kinda hate kids. I just genuinely don't know what I want to do.
Ive been thinking of doing a degree, possibly thinking of doing an open degree with the Open University but it kinda depends on how long its would take me. I mean, if its going to take like, 6 years then there's no point, its too long. I have more time now, with the kids being in school/nursery, but once Molly turns 5 in 18 months, I am required by law to get, or at least look for, a job. I don't know if I would be still allowed to study. Its all pretty confusing. Don't get me wrong, I will want to work, but I want to be able to get a better job than an 'entry level' one, or at least have some quals. and skills behind me to have the option to.
I feel that what I'm doing now, is what I 'should' have been doing at 18. But because I didn't go to 6th form, because I left after my GCSEs and went to work in the stables, and did qualifications towards teaching, that I haven't decided what it is I want to do. Thing is, the stables/teaching really isn't an option right now. Because I didn't get the full teaching qualifications, I would have to go back and train, and that's just not possible. It wouldn't be easy to work out around the kids. And they would end up missing out on a lot of stuff, and I would end up missing out on them and if that was ever going to be an option, Id have gone back to the stables a long time ago. But I want to see them grow up and help them do that as much as I can, and for as long as I can. Otherwise things would be different and they're not. They are the way they are.
I need to try and work it out. The counselling is still an option. I'm not sure how it all works though, I need to sit down for an hour or two and work it out. Id love to study, Id love to have the vocation, Id love to have somewhere to go in my life. I don't just want to work in a supermarket, not that there is anything wrong with that job of course, but I don't just want a 'job'. I want to do something that I enjoy, that I love doing, that I can put all my effort into. Maybe that just wont happen, maybe I will be sat behind a till for the rest of my life and if that's the case then Ill have to find other ways to find fulfillment in my life.
If I actually do want to travel when the kids have grown up, like I have said I am going to do for years, then I'm going to have to make enough money to put some aside to save for that purpose. I want the kids to have everything they want. And if Ive just got some crappy job then its highly unlikely that Ill be able to do that for them, and that's not fair, its not their fault.
So this is where I am right now I'm trying to work out what it is I'm good at, what I enjoy and what I want to do. I keep coming back to the OU, I think that might just be my best bet. But I think I need to speak to someone about it, because I just don't have a bloody clue.
I just don't know, I really don't know. I don't know what I like. I don't know what I enjoy doing, I cant remember! I love biology but where would I go with that?
At the OU, they offer a degree in counselling, but I need to sit down, probably for a couple hours, and figure out what I'm going to do and then make a start, because sitting here talking about is just well, its not getting me anywhere. I should never have taken that counselling course that I completely bailed on. I got nothing out of it, I wasn't ready for it. It shouldn't have been done, but it was and I have to sort it.
I need to sit down, concentrate and I need to read up. Then I need to get the ball rolling.
So yeah, my plan for now is to read, and figure out how I can do this counselling. I think that's what I want to do. I'm fairly sure that's what I want.
So wish me luck kids. Because I am amazing at procrastinating, as you all know. Today is a new day blah blah. You know how it goes.
Saturday, 1 October 2011
Crashing
This morning I woke up groggy. I went to sleep finally around 2am, kept waking up, had very odd dreams and was woken up at 7:11am by a small child needing me to help her downstairs.
Despite that, my mood wasn't terrible. I went back to bed and dozed for a while, but again kept getting woken up by the kids. Which of course I cant blame them as they're younger and cant get they're own cereal etc.
I got up, sorted my coffee and stuff, had breakfast, did some housework and listened/read about Liverpool beating Everton 2-0. And I was tired, but fine.
Then all of a sudden, around an hour or so ago, I just suddenly felt really down. (I don't want to use the word depressed, because I think that should be used in its correct context.) I have no reason for this mood crash that I can think of. I didn't have an argument, nothing happened to cause this. I was just, all of a sudden, wanting to go and lie on my bed, curl up into a ball, and cry. Maybe if I did that I would feel better. But I cant.
Those small people that woke me up this morning are still around playing. I cant just go have a little breakdown because it would upset them terribly. I simply don't have the time.
I'm trying to think of what might be making me feel this way. What it is that's not letting me be happy. These mood crashes come so regularly to me now but then I seem to lighten up just as quickly. This does worry me a little but I know that I'm not happy with my life the way it is.
I'm not happy with where I live, although I am grateful that I actually have somewhere to live. I'm not happy about being alone, except I would rather be alone and unhappy, than be with unhappy with someone. I'm not happy with myself, the way I look and the way I feel about that. There are other things that I have to work on to change about myself, my attitude and my outlook, I know that. But would my emotions not give me a bit of a break in the meantime?
There is one thing that keeps popping into my mind but that's only from today, it wouldn't really explain previous mood crashes. October 30th will be the 17th anniversary of my dad dying. Hes been gone 3 years longer than I got to be with him, and even this much later, it hurts more than anything ever has. I miss him more now than ever and I wish he was still here. I need him.
But I cant blame this on that, it was so long ago. Yeah I miss him, but I cant let that affect me so much. I don't know, maybe I never really got over it.
I don't know about much of this right now to be honest.
All I want to do now is to find some really sad film and cry the mood out.
I hope it helps because this is exhausting me.
Despite that, my mood wasn't terrible. I went back to bed and dozed for a while, but again kept getting woken up by the kids. Which of course I cant blame them as they're younger and cant get they're own cereal etc.
I got up, sorted my coffee and stuff, had breakfast, did some housework and listened/read about Liverpool beating Everton 2-0. And I was tired, but fine.
Then all of a sudden, around an hour or so ago, I just suddenly felt really down. (I don't want to use the word depressed, because I think that should be used in its correct context.) I have no reason for this mood crash that I can think of. I didn't have an argument, nothing happened to cause this. I was just, all of a sudden, wanting to go and lie on my bed, curl up into a ball, and cry. Maybe if I did that I would feel better. But I cant.
Those small people that woke me up this morning are still around playing. I cant just go have a little breakdown because it would upset them terribly. I simply don't have the time.
I'm trying to think of what might be making me feel this way. What it is that's not letting me be happy. These mood crashes come so regularly to me now but then I seem to lighten up just as quickly. This does worry me a little but I know that I'm not happy with my life the way it is.
I'm not happy with where I live, although I am grateful that I actually have somewhere to live. I'm not happy about being alone, except I would rather be alone and unhappy, than be with unhappy with someone. I'm not happy with myself, the way I look and the way I feel about that. There are other things that I have to work on to change about myself, my attitude and my outlook, I know that. But would my emotions not give me a bit of a break in the meantime?
There is one thing that keeps popping into my mind but that's only from today, it wouldn't really explain previous mood crashes. October 30th will be the 17th anniversary of my dad dying. Hes been gone 3 years longer than I got to be with him, and even this much later, it hurts more than anything ever has. I miss him more now than ever and I wish he was still here. I need him.
But I cant blame this on that, it was so long ago. Yeah I miss him, but I cant let that affect me so much. I don't know, maybe I never really got over it.
I don't know about much of this right now to be honest.
All I want to do now is to find some really sad film and cry the mood out.
I hope it helps because this is exhausting me.
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